Coping With Strict Parents

I'm 14 and my parents are so strict they don't care that I am growing up and need to learn to be myself. Instead I go to bed at 7:30, I have my phone for 2 hours a week. However then they make daft decisions like allowing me to watch tv all day and encourage me not to go out with mates and watch the tv they paid for.

I am a 14 yr old girl facing challenges at home. My parents have strict rules that often feel overwhelming. I find myself arguing with my mom every single day, it becomes a routine filled with tension and frustration. Unfortunately, this situation has taken a toll on my mental health. Im rarely allowed to go out with friends, and I have very limited access to my phone ( that they go through every day).I sometimes struggle to find a way to communicate my feelings without escalating the argument. The emotional strain from the abuse I've experienced has led me to dark thoughts, oh yeah i forgot to mention im being abused. I feel trapped and helpless, which makes me question my self-worth and my future.their strictness is impacting my well-being. I wish there was a way to open a dialogue about my feelings and find a balance that would allow me some freedom and would help me feel safe and understood. I am holding on, hoping that someday things will improve. but this hope is just fading. I really dont want to live anymore the only thing thats holding me from ending it is my religon. there is so much more to write but idk where to start just trust me the rules are endless. when i hear my parents talking about things they did as teens it makes me so mad bc i would never be allowed to have that like sleepovers,out till midnigt and stuff when they were my age.

Guys im 15 living with African parents ( Nigerian's to be precise)my dad took me and all my siblings mobile phone including my 19 year old brothers phonei understand why he took my elder brothers phone away but he claimed to take my phone beacuse im not reading that is the only way i communicate with my freinds what should i do i have even started studying to get my phone back its weird and then they start comparing themselves to when they were still young and there was no phones back then well idc that was the 20th century they should grow up we are in the 21st century

My mom , she always have rules in my life . I am 17 and this year gonna be 18 . My mom all the time taking my phone, checking my socials andeven controlling my background , how and whith whom I am talking. I know that this is part of careing about child, but come on I am not 14 or 15 even not 16 I fully know what I am doing , I am not asking being not controlled but .... This is over controlling and too much attention on me is killing me and my mental health. She has all the time an argument about my behaviour and all the time bitting me I am TIRED. I love her , but the way how she is tritting me is crazy , and unhealthy.

I'm already 17 and I'm in love with an 18yo girl with acute depression. But when my parents found out, they want me to stop my connections with the girl. They also threatened me that if I continue communicating with the girl, they'll force me to stop my education, as in they won't let me study anymore. They said that the girl will only be a problem and said that in case me and the girl have an argument in the future, the girl might commit sui**de. But I love the girl so much. I'm already 17. Why won't they let me love someone despite their mental health? I'm willing to take responsibilities and I won't even let those problems come to worst. Please I need help

I'm already 17 and I'm in love to an 18yo girl with acute depression. When my parents found out, they are forcing me to stop all my connections to the girl because they believe that she will be a problem. They said that if ever me and the girl encountered a problem in the future, the girl might commit sui**de. I get their point but I'm already 17. Am I not allowed to love someone I truly love despite their mental health? Like I'm responsible enough and won't let any problem left unsolved. I love the girl so much but my parents also threatened me that if I continue talking to the girl, they'll force me to stop going to school, as in I'll stay at home and like be a senior high school forever. Please I need help I've been in search for solutions since last week.

Yo guys, Im 10 and I just had an argument with my mom, now she won’t help me with my drawing homework and my other writing assignments. What should I do ?

So basically im 17 years old when i was 13 years i used to talk with a male who is 22 years! Because of my daddy issues ive gotten from my family my parents used to always yelling at each other and disrespecting each other in front of me so i didn’t have any friends because we moved to a new city so i knew that guy from a social media at first he seemed very kind and nice he helped me a lot to forget about my problems with my parents after a few months he stared to asking for nudes and a video call and stuff so i was like no i cant do that he was like we will get married and have a beautiful family so im your husband you can show me and he starts to forcing me to do these stuff until my mother cought me one day and she took my phone and laptop away for a year after that i bought a new phone and I promised her that i will begin a new life so after this she always suspected me that im talking to someone or being gay because i take pictures with my friends normally but she sees it as a shameful behavior that i put my tongue out side to take pictures of making a gang signs with my hands and stuff so she said if i saw you doing this again i will crash your phone and do not you ever think about it so i feel so sad because all of my friends doing these stuff with their mom normally but mine not she always threatened me to be careful how i take my pictures even i cant take pictures while wearing a bra or shorts even i go out with them… i dont have instagram evertime a new friend asks me for my ig username i get shy and tell them im sorry i do not have one.. want you to know mama that you really ruined my teenage life by not letting me practice my hobby (football) and not going out anytime with my friends and feel comfortable with my phone with my own privacy.

I'ma 20 year old , my parentsare so strict . I stay at home 24/7 ,the only time I get to leave the house is when I'mgoing to church or if I'msick . I don't have time togo out hung out with my friends.I like going on concertsmy parentsdon'twant me to go there becausethose events take place at night .I feellikethey d9nt trust me at all . If I wanted to live a waywardlife , I would do that becausethey leave me at home all by myself if I want to go out I can do that ....but I don'tbecauseI know what I want in life . But when everI ask to go out ...they always say it's not safe for me to go out .what will I benefitif I go these gospelconcerts . I don't know what to do .

Im 15 and I get scolded every few times a week. Its crazy how strict she is and my friends also wonder I live comfortably. While she has discussions with others, she says she friendly with me and when we are alone, she says parents are supposed to be strict. She treats marks as the most important thing in my life, even more then health. Im forced to study with her or she assumes that im just wasting my time. When we study im expected to learn everything by heart, and im supposed to recite the entire page/chapter to her. If i dont i get scoldings which go as far me being a 'sin' in the fam. My dads pretty chill and doesnt interfere in this (Not sure if he even knows whats happening). A holiday for me is waking up at 7:00 and studying for the entire day, if i dont i get scolded. I have a phone but im not allowed to talk to anyone (and i secretly posted this). My phone gets checked and im not allowed to have independent decisions too.

I know how you feel.My parents say they want me to improve, but every time I try to improve, they scold me and punish me for it.When I honestly have too much on my plate, they punish me by taking away my only way of getting in contact with friends and people.They just took away my phone because I had too much on my plate to do homework and when I tried to explain that fact, they didn't listen, they just were like, "You get a flip phone, end of discussion."If they want me to improve, they should let me improve on my own, without the pressures of having things taken from me.They won't even give me money for shopping, which means that I won't be able to get what I need and I will end up starving and dirty, far from what they want me to do.

Hi, im mariam. I am 15 yrs old and heres something i would like to share with everyone on this page. My life has hit a drastic change since i had became a teen. My parents are very strict and i belong from a very conservative family. I used to have a phone but it was later taken away when my parents found out that i had some male friends. They went through my phone really deeply and i was beaten and severly abused by my father that it left marks on my body from all the injuries. I was hit by my father like a stray dog and even worse it got me very distracted from my studies. Since then, i have not been allowed to meet any of my friends and i am only allowed to socialize under school premisies. It is really embarassing when my relatives or family friends come over and ask me for the WiFi passcode and since my parents have hidden it from us, i cant really tell anyone. There is a parental lock on every device in my house even the TV. Despite all the traume i have been through, my best friend helped me heal. I have tried painting, journaling to pass my time. To all the teens out there having the same situation as me, i advise you that please dont loose hope and stay patient ecause someday you will move out of your parents house, living a far better life than you used to. Peace<3

I have the strictest parents ever. I am not allowed to go to my friends' houses ever, I am only allowed to have my hair in a braid. No ponytail no hair down no nothing. I am only allowed to wear oversized clothing. No shorts no hahalf sleeves no nothing. I am not allowed to hangout with my friends out of school or even go to my friend's house for assignments no matter how much I fail if i don't. I am not allowed to wear nail polish or anything. I cannot even leave my home.

i have a really strict parents i am from Egypt that's why they are really so sostrict and i really don't know how to deal with and it's so annoying my curfew in the home is 6 pm and that's aren't normal at all and i am teenager girl who wanto enjoy her life and it's so hard for me to bear their rules and i really need any help?????????

hi, im mariah. i live with only my mom because my dad is not very stable at all and he doesnt really care about me. im a only child and the only thing i could wish for more in this world is a sibling. its only me and my mom in the house and shes so strict but she doesnt realize it. she wants everything done correctly or i have to do it again, if she really doesnt like how i did it she calls me a bitch. ive told her constantly i dont like to be called that and she also says other things like calls me a whore and im only good for my mouth and other things like that but whenever i tell her i dont like it she says "well if you dont do things that upset me then i wont call you that" she also doesnt let me leave, she broke my phone and took me off her phone plan and wont give me any sort of electronic accept for my school computer because i cant communicate with my friends on it. im 14 and i just want to be able to hang out with my friends and have a phone and be able to do normal things. one time she kicked me out of my room for about 2 months, i had to sleep on the couch and then i was sent to a mental hospital. its so embarrasing because all of my friends never get their phones taken or get in trouble by their mom alot so i dont like to tell them. plus all of my moms friends think shes such a good mom because she has really good credit and she provides for me and she has luxury things and she buys me things too.im really sad because i feel so trapped and i just hide in my room and i really am just waiting for this part of my life to be over and i dont know what to do,i often want to die and think about killing myself everyday im crying writing this and i just wish that my mom would understand. but she never could.

Ok so this will be long maybe. I have such a hard time and i hope this is seen and that im not the only one. Lets start that my parents have given me many mental issues and i now have to go to therapy for them. They forced me out of in person school because I was having bad mental health even though its because of them. I am not allowed to see friends and they say if I think thats bad they can actually keep me like Rapunzel. I survived of a secret iphone 6 they never knew I had and then they found it 1 or 2 weeks ago and my actual phone (that had every single parental control possible and was only unlocked for an hour on weekends.) is taken. They make me use this thing called a syncup KIDS watch thats from tmoblile even tho im 14 but obviously "i need it for safety" . Even the family tv has parental control locks on it so when my moms friends are over its super embarrassing. I wanted to run away but that could make things worse. They have cameras in the house and sensors on my windows and i have the open door rule must be in bed by nine. My books are checked so i cant even read twilight bc edward is "abusive" so i was able to get a girl from church to sneak some of the books to me. Im not allowed to have snacks and candy and if i buy clothes my mom doesnt like they get returned or thrown away even if its not a crop top or something. im on here o nmy school computer and my moms even been on my school computer. im not allowed to have this computer in my room even though its how i concentrate. I could go on even more but thats the main idea of my strict parents and im so annoyed and trapped and helpless and its like they treat me lke im 8 or something even tho im 14 with things like a kids watch designed for 5 year olds. not to mention that i was only allowed to use messenger kids.

Ok so this will be long maybe. I have such a hard time and i hope this is seen and that im not the only one. Lets start that my parents have given me many mental issues and i now have to go to therapy for them. They forced me out of in person school because I was having bad mental health even though its because of them. I am not allowed to see friends and they say if I think thats bad they can actually keep me like Rapunzel. I survived of a secret iphone 6 they never knew I had and then they found it 1 or 2 weeks ago and my actual phone (that had every single parental control possible and was only unlocked for an hour on weekends.) is taken. They make me use this thing called a syncup KIDS watch thats from tmoblile even tho im 14 but obviously "i need it for safety" . Even the family tv has parental control locks on it so when my moms friends are over its super embarrassing. I wanted to run away but that could make things worse. They have cameras in the house and sensors on my windows and i have the open door rule must be in bed by nine. My books are checked so i cant even read twilight bc edward is "abusive" so i was able to get a girl from church to sneak some of the books to me. Im not allowed to have snacks and candy and if i buy clothes my mom doesnt like they get returned or thrown away even if its not a crop top or something. im on here o nmy school computer and my moms even been on my school computer. im not allowed to have this computer in my room even though its how i concentrate. I could go on even more but thats the main idea of my strict parents and im so annoyed and trapped and helpless and its like they treat me lke im 8 or something even tho im 14 with things like a kids watch designed for 5 year olds. not to mention that i was only allowed to use messenger kids.

I swear my dad is the legit worst (in m opinion ive read some of your comments and im like woah) anyways my dad basically controls my life. ever since i was like 6 hes been a helicopter parent. he always did everything for me. im 14 now almost 15 and he treats me like a baby still. i barley ever go to other peoples houses. my first sleep over was in 7th grade. a little back story my mom left me for drugs and i was always aware of that. when she tried to come back into m life i got so embarrassed. she was weird and crazy and mentally stupid. like she had the IQ of a seventh grader. anyways i live in a city where theres two parents in the house and people have picture perfect lives but me i started lying about my life because i was so embarassed of what people would think of me. my dad got mad at me for talking to my asian friends because "im trying to be like them" he told me i need to tell them the truth about my life but i dont want to. he took my phone for the whole summer and got pissed off becaus i got depressedand cried a lot. aparently im being a "powderpuff snowflake" because i show my feelings a lot more. ive already attemped su!c!de because of how he treats me but noooo i was doing it for attention. im neer good enough in his eyes and honestly i wanna go with my mom. live with her. maybe life wont be so bad. god i honestly hate my life.

I'm 15, my parents have a control app on my phone. It track my messages, location, texts, calls, apps, screen time etc. Even though they can see where I am they always make me text them when im leaving and when i get there and where im going, how long ill be gone, who im gonna be with. I have my own car that I bought with my own money, (I have a job) I bought it cause I wanted something that I could drive but also put mods on. My dad wont let me get any mods on it, or work on it. like I said earlier I have a job and make quite a bit of money, but im not allowed to do anythign with it except buy gas without getting in trouble.anything I go to I have to give them 2-4 weeks notice depending on the nature of it. theyhave cameras all over the house, one of them can even see into my room when the door is open. they say its for "home protection" but all they use it for is to spy on me when theyre gone. Im not allowed to date until im 16, but im in a relationship, so they put bs retrictions on it. So she lives roughly 45 mins north of my city, im not allowed to even go to that city for any reason whatsoever, im not allowed to be with her unless my family is there, I CANT EVEN BE WITH HER WITH FRIENDS, until im 16. I turn 16 in a month, so they said once I am 16 I can go out with her with friends. BUT IM NOT ALLOWED TO TOUCH HER AT ALL, NOT EVEN HOLD HANDS OR SIT NEXT TO HER. and Im not allowed to go on a date with her alone till we've been "dating" for at least a year. Not to mention that Im not allowed to have snap, tik tok, instagram, the only thing I can have is Facebook and Discord, (I sneak around and have those apps anyway but if they find out that I have it Im gonna be creamed) I cant go to any friends house unless they know the friend, or they have their number, their parent's number, and a picture of them. When I go out I have to tell them EVERYTHING im doing, no no im not allowed to say something like: "hey ill be back by __" no I have to say everything im doing and everywhere im going, but I have to get permission for it. My parents say that I have a lot of freedom, and they always compare their ass parenting skills to my friend's parents (who were strict when he was in high school) but they say that they arent as strict as them, when in reality, they are 3x as strict. The cherry on top is that my dad is my boss at work, so he has access to everything I do, he can see when I work, he can pretty much stalk me. He doesnt know how to keep work and home life seperate, so I get in trouble at work and at home for things i do wrong. He's letting me get a different job, but he's very opposed to it. Im gonna get a different job so he has less control over me. Im working on graduating early so I can get out of this hellhole, they put me through nothing but misery.

I am 24 years old and my dad is so strict and my step mom....unfortunately I don't live with my mom ?? ?? But my dad is so strict like I have my OWN car and I can only drive it to work how stupid is that and I'm not allowed being out with my friends late I don't even have a lot of friends because I have a lot of anxiety and now I'm getting depression and I'm having suicidal thoughts...I'm so tired of living

My parents are kind of flexible, but sometimes the rules they make are kind of stupid. I lost my phone for three months just because I stayed up until midnight on it. I think I should have been grounded, but not for that long. That summer I lost my phone for two months, because I talked to my online friends. I felt like my online friends are really there for me, and I could tell them anything. My mom didn't like them and made me never text them again, which made me really depressed. She reads all my texts, doesn't let me have any sort of social media, which sometimes makes it hard to keep up with friends, and I have a time limit on my phone, which makes it hard to socialize with others. I'm supposed to go to bed at 8:30 on weekdays. I don't even fall asleep at 8:30. Most of my friends parents let them use their phone whenever, and don't snoop through things. They are pretty flexible and don't care. I get good grades, I clean my room, and I don't always misbehave. I don't know what to do.

My parents are kind of flexible, but sometimes the rules they make are kind of stupid. I lost my phone for three months just because I stayed up until midnight on it. I think I should have been grounded, but not for that long. That summer I lost my phone for two months, because I talked to my online friends. I felt like my online friends are really there for me, and I could tell them anything. My mom didn't like them and made me never text them again, which made me really depressed. She reads all my texts, doesn't let me have any sort of social media, which sometimes makes it hard to keep up with friends, and I have a time limit on my phone, which makes it hard to socialize with others. I'm supposed to go to bed at 8:30 on weekdays. I don't even fall asleep at 8:30. Most of my friends parents let them use their phone whenever, and don't snoop through things. They are pretty flexible and don't care. I get good grades, I clean my room, and I don't always misbehave. I don't know what to do.

My parents are kind of flexible, but sometimes the rules they make are kind of stupid. I lost my phone for three months just because I stayed up until midnight on it. I think I should have been grounded, but not for that long. That summer I lost my phone for two months, because I talked to my online friends. I felt like my online friends are really there for me, and I could tell them anything. My mom didn't like them and made me never text them again, which made me really depressed. She reads all my texts, doesn't let me have any sort of social media, which sometimes makes it hard to keep up with friends, and I have a time limit on my phone, which makes it hard to socialize with others. I'm supposed to go to bed at 8:30 on weekdays. I don't even fall asleep at 8:30. Most of my friends parents let them use their phone whenever, and don't snoop through things. They are pretty flexible and don't care. I get good grades, I clean my room, and I don't always misbehave. I don't know what to do.

Hi im 14 and my parents are very weirdly strict. I can get piercings and go out with friends, whatever they don't care. However I am not aloud to get baptized until im an adult. And I ligit want to get baptized and comit myself to Jesus and publicly show that. But since my parents got baptized young, now I have to wait. Please help before I turn 18 and just say no, I don't want to get baptized. Ig im just mad because they want it to be my choice but it's not. Like really, what. I don't care anymore. i was worried I was gonna go to hell but that was a false thing, so now im living for jesus and thats the best i can do.

I’m turning 15 in 2 months . I live with my dad who is really strict , and it’s unfair because my friends parents aren’t and I wish my dad was like them . I’m allowed to move when I’m 16 to go live with my mom and I’m so excited . But It’s gonna be hard to get through this year , with parental controls on my phone , 2 hours of screentime a day , my phone shuts off at 9pm . I have to wear shorts that are down to my knees and I’m not allowed to wear crop tops . My mom isn’t strict at all and I can’t wait to go live with her .

I'm 14 years old, nonbinary and lesbian and my parents are massive homophobes as well as strict. I don't have a phone, I have to share a family one, and I'm not allowed to download any apps or games. I'm not allowed to text my friends without asking, my phone locks at nine, and I'm only allowed on electronics 20 minutes a day. I am not allowed to have sleepovers, social media, or any clothes that my parents don't approve of. I don't have an allowance, and my parents lock away my birthday money for 'college' and tell me to get a job, even though my state doesn't let me do that until 16. Whenever I try to talk to them about anything important, they twist it around and make it seem like it's my fault (ex. me: "mom, i don't have friends because you won't let me text them ever" mom: "well that's your fault because we can't trust you because remember that one time in seventh grade when you made an instagram account?") If I even mention that I want to be called by they/he pronouns and have a preferred name, they tell me that I'm just confused, and I need to pray to God and tell my bishop. I don't have any friends because I don't have social media, and I'm forced to play the violin, or my mum is threatening to take me out of the only school where I feel comfortable and haven't been bullied, and put me in a school full of old bullies. I'm depressed and I feel suicidal sometimes, and I have extreme social anxiety because I'm never allowed to talk to people, and I move every two years because of my dad's job. I cry myself to sleep a lot, and I really don't know what I'm going to do until I get out of high school. I've been stuck at home a lot with my six siblings (of which I am the oldest and most hated) and I feel like I'm going to explode.

Hey all, I'm literally turning 16 in 2 days. I have more adult friends than friends my age (thanks to my parents and me being an only child) and I got my nails done today with 2 of those friends. They're both 21, smoke, vape, drink, everything. They are wonderful people though and friends with my mom. My mom doesn't want me to hang out with them because, and I quote, "They're 22." That's the only reason she can give me. I have a friend that lives in a bad part of town and my mom thinks it's fine for 2 15-year-old girls to walk around at night alone. I can't understand that logic. My parents are so strict, I hide everything from them and lie about insignificant things. I get yelled at for lying though so I just hide in my room and cry most of the time. I've hidden my depression and suicidal thoughts for most of my life and when I decided to bring it up, my mom minimized it. I ended up writing a suicide note later that month and, if she hadn't come outside to yell at me, I wouldn't be here today. I love her and she's a great person but she wants me to be someone I'm not. She tries to choose who I'm friends with. I have to write letters to my boyfriend and lie about them just so I can talk to him. She's known him for his whole life and I've had feelings for him almost as long. She knows I've had feelings for him and my dad even told him to make a move, but no, I can't be "getting close to him." Because he's a bad influence.... She's been in love! She knows that when you find someone you truly care about, you want to be the best version of yourself you can be. I know she loves me and she's just worried about me but I'm old enough to see who's good for me and who's not, regardless of how they act around her. The world isn't perfect, she knows that, and neither are people.

Im 21 years old now and I already have work. I still cant go out with my boyfriend without my brother going with me. If we have a gathering with my friends they would always ask who I am with and i tried to bring my boyfriend with me but they said no. What would I do in this life. I cant be like this forever. There is no room for me to grow and experience what life really is. Can I have a family? will they still be like this even if i am already married and have kids?

I live with both my parents although my dad is never ever home and my mom never lets me get a break. I’m turning 13 this year and she always compares me two my friends and whenever I try to take a break for a bit she yells and asks why I didn’t finish my homework. My mom expects so much from me and if I get a bad grade it’s suddenly because of my phone, and now just recently she decided I’ve been spending “to much time” on my phone. I literally spend hours studying and doing homework but she doesn’t listen and I’m suddenly never around anymore and I just sit in my room the whole day, SHE IS LITERALLY THE REASON I DONT LEAVE MY ROOM. She can’t even realize when I’m upset or sad and when she does she starts caring for a while then like an hour after she yells at me again. She thinks taking everything away from me is gonna help me with life and she literally says “I will take away everything you like and I don’t care”. At this point I cry myself to sleep thinking I’m not enough.

Im 13 and i have a strict dad, im not allowed to use electronics at home mon - thur and he wonders why im sad and tired, being able to talk to my freinds is a chance to express my self and stay happy i cant even talk to my girlfriend, my bed time is 8:30. i just got a phone and a can use it outside of home but its not allowed at home. There is nothing to do during the week and i am so bored, he tells me to go for a bike ride with the other kids in my neighborough hood but they are not my friends and what am i meant to do, do that every day until im 18, im sick of life it is just soo boring